One Month Into My 90-Day Writing Challenge

“Everything negative – pressure, challenges – is all an opportunity for me to rise..” – Kobe Bryant

It’s surreal to think that I’ve just wrapped up the first month of my 90-day challenge. A commitment that began as a way to improve my writing and health has unexpectedly turned into a journey of self-discovery and so much more. Over these past four weeks, I’ve faced challenges, celebrated small wins, and uncovered truths about myself I didn’t know I was searching for.

In case you didn’t catch up on the weekly reviews I gave these past weeks, here is a summary of the struggles, breakthroughs, and lessons learnt these past weeks.

In week 1, I started despite the fear.

We all know that the hardest part of any journey is the beginning. But it doesn’t make the fear of starting any less daunting. Week 1 wasn’t about setting goals—that part came easily. The real challenge was pushing through the hesitation, the nagging feeling that maybe I wasn’t ready for this.

I learnt something powerful in those early days. And it was that starting is never about feeling fully prepared. What matters is taking that first step even when you’re uncertain. The beauty of my growth in this period began after I started. Once I committed to pursuing this 90-day challenge, I found that momentum began to build, almost as if moving forward attracted more movement.

Writing every day became a discipline, even when the words didn’t flow easily. My daily walks? They quickly turned from a task to a refuge. An avenue for me to clear my mind and shake off the weight of hesitation and pressure of my responsibilities as a mum and wife. Overall in week 1, I wasn’t focused on achieving some form of perfection. I was focused on showing up and letting action push me forward, one step at a time. And that was what I did.

In week 2, I established a routine and built some momentum.

By week 2, the energy shifted. The fear of starting had melted away, replaced by the quiet rhythm of a routine. I made a small but significant change: I moved my walks from the evenings to the mornings. And what a difference it made.

There’s something about starting the day with movement that clears the mental fog that we (parents) often wake up with. My morning walks became a time to reflect on the writing I’d done earlier, giving me the clarity I needed to return and polish my work with fresh eyes. My routine went beyond just completing tasks, it became about syncing my mind and body into a flow that supported my goals.

That routine became my anchor. I wrote, I walked, I published. Wash, rinse, repeat. And slowly but surely, it became muscle memory, an automatic part of my day that no longer required effort, but simply existed.

In Week 3, I struggled with the monotony of my new routine.

With week 3 came the quiet battle that no one really talks about, boredom based on the monotony that your life becomes when you stick to a routine. When the novelty of a new challenge wears off, routine can feel suffocating. I found myself tempted to skip a walk or take a break from writing. I know you’ve been there. The moment where the spark fades, and laziness starts whispering in your ear.

I had to remind myself why I started this journey in the first place. I wasn’t here to coast through a 90-day checklist. This was about long-term growth. So, I leaned into my discipline, even on the days I wanted to let go. My daughter started school that week, adding another layer to the juggling act that is my life. But hey, it wasn’t all bad. That’s because week 3 taught me that motivation may come and go, but commitment is what gets you through the tough days.

I didn’t give in to the temptation of quitting. I kept walking, kept writing, kept pushing forward.

Then, week 4 came around and I experienced an identity crisis.

You see, I’ve taken on a new role mentoring university graduates who are part of the ALU Alumni Program. Mentorship is something I’m passionate about, but when I sat down to introduce myself to my mentees, I felt stuck. Who am I now?

Am I just the writer? The communications expert? The mother who’s constantly balancing everything? Or am I something more than any of these labels? The question caught me off guard, and it’s one I’m still trying to answer. But I’ve come to realise that we are always evolving.

The person I was when I started this challenge isn’t the person I am now. And guess what? That’s okay. I don’t have to fit neatly into one box. I don’t have to define myself by a single title. The truth is, as humans, we’re never just one thing. We’re layers, constantly shifting, growing, adapting. And maybe that’s the point of our lives during a growth journey, to embrace the uncertainty of who we’re becoming.

Of course, life didn’t slow down just because I was having an existential moment. My daughter fell ill, my routine took a hit, and the chaos of balancing caregiving with work took over. But even amid that storm, I didn’t let it derail my progress. I adjusted, I adapted, and I kept moving forward.

So, what have I learnt after one month of this 90-day challenge?

I learnt that:

• Starting is the hardest part but momentum is your greatest ally: Once you take that first step, everything else becomes easier.
• Routines are great but flexibility is key: Life will throw curveballs, and adapting to them is just as important as sticking to the plan.
• Motivation is fleeting: But discipline is what carries you through the tough days when you don’t feel like showing up.
• Growth is a journey, not a destination: You don’t have to have all the answers about who you are. It’s okay to evolve and embrace the uncertainty of that process.

This challenge has become so much more than just walking and writing. It has been a test of resilience, adaptability, and self-discovery. And if the first month is any indication, the next two months will bring even greater lessons, more challenges, and hopefully, more clarity for me.

As I move into month two, I’m prepared for whatever lies ahead.

There will be more obstacles, more moments of doubt, more crises of identity. But I’m also looking forward to more breakthroughs. More growth. More reasons to keep pushing forward.

I’m sharing this journey because I know so many of you are on your path; whether in your careers, personal lives, or health. And if I’ve learned anything in this first month, it’s that you are stronger than you think, and the growth you’re looking for is on the other side of the discomfort.

Thanks for being a part of this with me. Here’s to going forward with growth…one step, one word, one day at a time.

I’m excited about month two!

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